We are surrounded by relationships. Our partner, our parents, our friends, our family, even “Paul” who works at the gas station. All are part of a community web that we create. We are constantly forming new relationships, managing the ones we have, and sometimes letting go of the ones that are no longer serving us. Relationships can carry us through many emotions. Many, many emotions.
Last Saturday, I attended my first sweat lodge. Never having experienced one before, I was amazed by each element that created this night. I followed the movements of others and listened closely as we repeated mantras and prayers that have been passed down over many, many generations.
The sweat lodge was referred to as the womb, a sacred place of magic, spirit and birth. Envision a dome shaped wood frame covered in heavy blankets; such thick-layered blankets that all of the light from the outside was shut out, and all of the heat was kept in. And all of us (about twenty) healed and released in this heat.
There were many words spoken that night, words of intention, gratitude, healing, love, spirit, but there were a few words that stuck with me long after I had left that magical place. “Be in right relationship”.
When I first heard this said that night, I thought of the people who are in my life, the ones who have been in my life for a long time and the ones who I am just getting to know. I thought about how grateful I am for these relationships and for all that they provide me with.
When I heard “get into right relationship”, I thought about some of the changes that I want to make in my own life, resentments that I want to let go of and judgments that are not serving a positive purpose.
“When you put love into any relationship, there is no room for anything else. There is no room for hate, for judgements, for war.”
Whoa. This was the answer to how I would release these judgments and resentments that were only causing harm. By putting love into any situation, there is no room for anything but love. Of course, putting this into practice can be extremely challenging at times, but with love, all can be healed. At times of great frustration or fear, this is the perfect thought to come back to.
“Get into right relationship with yourself”.
After all of this time sitting here and thinking about everyone in my life, I had totally forgotten about myself. How do I talk to myself each day? How am I treating myself? Am I putting love into every encounter with my own existence? How is my relationship with ME? How can one have a healthy relationship with someone else while living an un-loving relationship with the self? This was something that needed to go up on the vision board (and it did). I need this reminder. Sometimes we get so caught up in the struggles with others, with events, with daily stressors, that we forget to create and practice love for ourselves; our own body, mind and spirit.
Since last Saturday night, these words have been playing like a record in my head. “Get in right relationship”
What does this mean for you? What relationships in your life need tending to?
In my opinion, this work is never complete, but by practicing daily with small steps, you can teach yourself to put love into all aspects of life. What will you do today?
with extra love,